Middle Child...~

Oldest and youngest children can usually find reasons to be glad about their place in the family. Not so middle children. They often aren't the biggest and strongest, they aren't the babies who get away with murder, they aren't really anything special, at least in their own minds. Sometimes they feel invisible. But this uncomfortable feeling of not having a defined place in the family may actually turn out to be an advantage. Unlike first children, who often define success by their ability to meet their parents' expectations, middle children are more prone to rebel against the status quo. I'd wager that most middle children had no idea that they were so important. Another result of having a less well-defined place in the family is that middle children often reach outside the family for significant relationships. They make close circles of friends. During adolescence, in particular, they may be especially influenced by their peer groups, often to their parents' dismay.

Relationships with parents
Parents may not have as strong a sense of what to expect from a middle child as they do for a firstborn or their youngest. In one way, that's a good thing, because it gives the middle child freedom to follow his individual path. On the other hand, the sense of being less understood makes some middle children feel unloved. From the parents' point of view, the fact that there are a thousand baby pictures of the first child, and only a few dozen of the second-born simply means that they got tired of getting rolls and rolls of film developed. But from the middle child's vantage point, it is documentary proof of their second-class status. In terms of sibling rivalry, the firstborn may be struggling to maintain her position on top, but middle children seemingly struggle just to be noticed at all.

Relationships with siblings
For any middle child, the biggest point of comparison is the sibling who falls just before them in the birth order. Often, rather than competing head-on with that older sibling, the middle child chooses to go in a different direction. If the older sibling is a great student, for example, the middle child may become a musician or an athlete. (There's some research suggesting that middle children are more likely to engage in dangerous sports, perhaps because they are used to taking risks.) By choosing a niche that isn't already occupied, a middle child increases his chances of standing out and being noticed, and decreases the risk of negative comparisons. Middle children, who are usually smaller than their older siblings while they're growing up, often learn non-aggressive strategies to get what they want, such as negotiation, cooperation, or seeking parental intervention. As the underdogs themselves in many sibling conflicts, middle children often develop a fine sense of empathy with the downtrodden, as do many youngest children. Where first and last children may tend to be self-centered, middle children often take a genuine interest in getting to know other people. Being in the middle, they may find it easier to look at interpersonal situations from various points of view.

Is it true what the article said abt being the middle child? I'm a middle child so dat is why i paste the article at my blog. The one higlighted are mostly true. I tried to be diff fr my siblings. I dun lyk to be compared dat me and my sibs are the same and blah, blah, blah... And wen i want to get something dat i want, i always use the negotiate, cooperation and the seeking parental intervention methods!! Khehehehe...

Yesterday i went JB wif my mum, Mama and Uncle. Went to send the cloth to make a dress for me. But i wont be using it for dis yr Raya though. Went Angsana where my mum bought a big vase and flower for our hse. Den we went to Abg Mus's hse. Was glad Quraisya was awake. She's so CUTE and ADORABLE!!! Wished i cld take her hm for one day. Khehehe! Went home after dat. Was so tired dat i didnt ate my dinner. Well...actually i didnt even eat my lunch. Did not felt hungry so...

23rd August which was on Tues, me & Nad wanted to surprise Ain to celebrate her b'lated b'day. We went to Sweet Secret and bought 3 small cakes: Corcordilia (think so!), Royaltine and Cookies and cream cheesecake. We went to the so-called courtyard at the upper level of TM and sat at the playgrd area. We den indulged ourselves wif the cakes! Man...it was so nice. ;p We den went to LJS to eat our dinner. Soon it was tym to go hm... Wish i cld do dat more often wif my frens!!!

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